For 2 years now we have been struggling with our daughter who is obsessed with having a boyfriend. Claims she needs a boyfriend. We have not made any progress with here. She has run away twice already. We are at a loss.
Your daughter is teenager and this can happen to any teen girl. First of all you have to talk with your daughter politely and teach her to focus on her studies. If she will not understand, then you can send her to teen’s boarding school or boot camps that will help your girl to gain good things.
As far as I think, you should enroll your teen to military boarding school. Every teen have to do daily exercise and some extra activities at boarding school and this is compulsory for each and every student. Your teen will participate in these activities and loss her weight very soon.
May be your daughter is a patient of depression and loneliness which forces her to share feelings with her boyfriend. Some time tensions and bad environment at home motivate the children to make new relationship outside the home. You may need to spend more and more time with daughter to establish healthy relationship with her once again.
Teenagers and adults are getting indulge in all such activities at very fast rates. You may need to support her in very caring way. May be your daughter feels very depressed because of your absence in some special moments. This forces her to share feelings and emotions with her boyfriend. This time your daughter requires caring attitude from you.
As you have said in your question, that your daughter needs a boyfriend and she is very obsessed. Your daughter is suffering from this problem from last 2 years, so it might be possible that she feel very alone at home or due to some other reason. Now at this moment, you need to provide friendly environment to your daughter and make her understand.
In my point of view, your daughter is suffering from depression and aloneness state. She has run away twice with her boyfriend, so you can do one think just talk to that boy and request him to stay away from her life. At home try to spend maximum time with her and also arrange some parties and programs, so that she could feel very relax and her mind can be diverted.
