I am mother of 19 years old girl. She has been obedient and well mannered girl from childhood. She has completed her schooling from girl school. Now she is in Co-ed College. She always comes late and her behavior has been changed. Her friend told me that she has been expelled from college from school two times. I asked her but she is not ready to tell me anything. Please help me.
I think your daughter is facing some problems in school. It seems that she is in some bad company or a victim of bullying. This may the main cause of her wrong behavior in school due to which she had been expelled from school. You need to talk to her teachers about the reasons of her behavior. You may also go to some good counselor that can solve the problem of your daughter.
This behavior of your daughter many be due to her inability to adjust with her college’s environment. Try to talk to her very calmly and find the reason of her behavior. If there is some problem you can send her to some good boarding school that accepts only female students. You can also take her to some good therapist.
I think this is the common problem most of the parents are facing. Even though she is an obedient and calm girl in school level, when she comes to college level she would have new friends and new habits. So as a parent we must guide them with necessary counseling classes from repudiated professionals in that field to get reed of this problem.
The problem faced by your child is a troubled teen one. So I would think this problem must be cured in the initial stage itself otherwise this would be worse in upcoming days.
Join her in a professional trained school and make her to learn all the new things and the consequences with new habits and new friendships.
Your daughter is in the age of adolescence, in this period of time some changes occur but your daughter is not facing normal changes she is in big problem. There are many options to help your daughter like boarding school and military schools. They have their different techniques of treating these kinds of problems.
Your daughter is facing major problem. As you wrote she completed her schooling from girl school and now she is in co-ed. At this time of age girls usually have boyfriends. So, you have to discuss with your daughter about her personal life and tell her not to do anything that can create problem for her.
At college level, several teens can bunk the classes. But I think your daughter has some problem that’s why she is not interest to attend the classes. You have to ask about it very friendly and help her. May be her mind is in other thing. You have to know that where she go after school. Boarding school is the last and the best option for your daughter.
I think your daughter have bad friends circle or boyfriend. You have to ask her about it very frankly. You can get help from her old closest friends. You can send your daughter in boarding school. The hard rules and regulation of boarding school will teach her discipline.
If your daughter has been well mannered till school then there must be something wrong with her this time. Try to find out that who all are there in her friends circle. Are there more boys now? Have a close supervision on her behavior, where she is going. If you think, none of these things will work, and then take help from a counselor or a professional.
The best way to tackle such teens is to send them to a boarding school or a wilderness program. They fix the child’s problem well. But before sending her there you must know about her attitude and behavior. Visit her school and take her reports from her teachers, ask her friends that if she involved in any kind of gang etc.
